There are different phases that one needs to go through while reaching a stage where feelings do not persist. It is a whole process of acceptance, grief, and then learning ways to overcome the emotions. Here are six ways you can get over the individual that is bothering your heart, and find a way to look for more hearts to embrace.
1. Acceptance
There is no way to move from the past until you have accepted the reality of it belonging to the past, not the present. The only way out is to let the grief inside; don’t avoid facing the truth, the pain. Instead, embrace it with open arms and feel everything, so you can be able to move on steadily, without keeping things inside.
2. Allow yourself to cry
It is important to let it all out, therefore crying is also a technique to gain relief. As many people advise; cry and cry until no tear remains. That is one way to release the tensions residing in your heart, and gain more stability. Dismiss the notion that crying is a sign of weakness and showing emotions is wrong. Crying is the sign of acceptance, and a symptom of courage.
3. Find ways to let the anger out
Anger is an important, and understandable in the circumstances of grief and loss of love. The best way is to search for activities and employ practices that help let out the anger, and release the body of all the built of rage. You can go out for shopping, workout, go throw some paint on a wall and create art. Anything that is safe and a healthy outlet of anger, is the best way forward into stabilizing emotions and getting over that person.
4. Block and delete all memories
An important part of getting over someone is blocking the person, and deleting all old memories. No one should go back to the archives with tears rolling down their eyes. That is a big no, so go ahead and muster up some courage and hit that block button, and select all the pictures and videos and throw them in the bin! No more crying sessions for the past.
5. Get rid of negative energies
People and ideas can be negative energies as well. If the person you love has a negative energy for your development, then create strict boundaries or get rid of the person if possible. However, the rule always is to keep positive energy alongside you, and dispose out the negatives!
6. Create new memories
The last way to complete the process is go out and create new memories. Plan a trip with friends, go out alone to places that were on your list, or even go out on a date! Do new things the old you could have never done, and replace these recollections with the old ones that do not count now.