In reality, identity is an 8-letter word, but as a human, it's a lot harder than that. As a human, your identity is who you are and is expected to be your sense of self, but what is sense of self? In our generation and society, we are expected to figure out everything by the time we are in our late twenties, but that doesn't happen.
As human beings, we evolve with time. Our lives are not linear, our lives change in a matter of seconds, yet we are expected to have control over everything. In some ways, even the theory of identity changes. As each year passes and the number on our charts rises, we are expected to act differently.
As a child, we are expected to experiment and aren't taken as seriously. Teenagers, are expected to make decisions like adults yet, are treated like children.
Towards our early twenties, we are expected to start figuring out things and make decisions that affect our whole lives and by our late twenties, we are expected to settle, never to experiment again but to go on in life with things that are all set up like the foundations of a bridge.
It's not that simple, in today's day and age it's hard to set things in place because we live in such uncertain times. As human beings, we constantly change from our liking to our personalities, everything changes based on situations we are in. If our lives are so turbulent, why are we expected to work like well-oiled machines?
No matter how old you get, your identity changes with you and that's completely alright, figuring everything out is overrated. A sense of stability is good, but so is letting yourself grow. So when we crush ourselves to figure it all out and be what society expects from us at a certain age, we are stopping ourselves from growing. By choosing stability or comfort, we are taking away the opportunity of finding something new.
Identity isn't easy; it's a long battle that never ends, but at the end of the day what matters is our peace of mind more than the idea of settling. What is important is growing, and what is imposing is the idea of being stuck in one place. We don't have to know who we are all the time. Our identity grows with us, we don't grow into our identity, and that is just the way human emotion works.